It’s the type of book you might read “for a friend because nothing like that would ever happen to me.”
Even so, 70 percent of men use porn. One in six women struggles with addiction to porn. Being part of the Church doesn’t exempt us when 50 percent of pastors use porn too.
Porn is everywhere. It touches all of us causing wounds, seen and unseen, but always felt even if we don’t understand their source.
Bob and Dannah Gresh have felt the hard slap of porn addiction in their marriage too.
And unlike many other Christians, they aren’t hiding their struggle. They’re showing us their journey to help us along ours.
“One book won’t fix a marriage.” That’s how Dannah opens her newly released book Happily Even After: Let God Redeem Your Marriage.
The book specifically addresses couples who struggle with his porn addiction and her response to it. Yet the advice is applicable to a variety of challenges couples may face.
Dannah writes in a tone that makes you want to pour a cup of tea for yourself and relax as if she were right across the table from you understanding your every heartache.
Her personal story, introduced with an account from her husband Bob includes sound, step-by-step counsel.
- “stop pretending everything is okay
- strengthen yourself in the Lord
- fight for your husband instead of with him
- discover 6 essential beliefs every marriage needs to survive broken places
- participate in your husband’s redemption story”
Books like this one are important because they touch our lives right where we wrestle. Right where we feel that we can’t let anyone else know what our inner combat is all about.
Disclosure: I’ve known Bob and Dannah for more than a decade and a half. I received a free copy of this book for review as part of the launch team. That doesn’t color my conviction that years from now, because of this book, couples will be together who wouldn’t be without having heeded its message.
And if they’ve taken this book (and others Dannah recommends) to heart, their marriages just might be thriving.
Read this book. Cover to cover. Use the supplemental materials. Follow the directions. Cry. Pray. Cry. Share your burden. Cry with someone else. Heal. Forgive. Heal.
And follow God’s path on the good way forward.
Even if you’re just asking for a friend.
18 Replies to “Happily Even After: Let God Redeem Your Marriage”
Dannah and Bob are courageous and faithful to share their story to help others in this much-needed area. The statistics are frightening. Thank you for sharing, Nancy.
They are wonderful people. Thanks, Katherine, and God bless!
When people share their personal journeys, others can be helped.
That’s exactly what it means to bear one another’s burdens. Thanks, Melissa. God bless!
So grateful they chose to share their story to help other couples struggling with this. You are right.. it’s a huge problem affecting SO MANY!
It’s bigger than we realize, and since it affects so many young people, it’s sure to become even more significant going forward–unless we turn to God for healing. Thanks, Jessica. God bless!
Those statistics are staggering, Nancy. The enemy sure has gained a foothold through porn. But our God is stronger!
God is stronger, indeed. We must fight beside Him. Thanks and God bless!
The statistics surprised me that they were that high. So glad this couple is sharing to help others. Thanks Nancy
It’s that so many people feel shame and keep their dark secrets within creating more shame. That’s why the numbers are big and surprising. Thanks, Yvonne. God bless!
These are powerful tools for helping the family that is overcome by the temptation of pornography. Human nature always causes sin, and reliance upon the Lord is necessary for overcoming every stronghold.
So true, Melinda! This tool is very useful. Thanks and God bless!
This is a strong temptation in many families. What husbands do often results in the teens being drawn into porn addiction. This is a stronghold that requires we lean on Jesus, relying on Him for the strength to overcome temptation and to live like Christ Jesus.
It can be a generational sin. Seeds planted bringing a bigger crop than the seed. Thanks, Melinda. God bless!
The problem of porn is ubiquitous and devastating. Thanks, Nancy, for sharing help from someone who’s been there, done that. Blessings to you!
Thank you, Annie. God bless!
This book sounds powerful, Nancy. It’s refreshing when couples are honest, vulnerable and real to help others who walk the same path. This really is good counsel:
“stop pretending everything is okay
strengthen yourself in the Lord
fight for your husband instead of with him
discover 6 essential beliefs every marriage needs to survive broken places
participate in your husband’s redemption story”
The book really is good counsel, Karen. Thanks and God bless!